A wise cgi muppet once said, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” I read the article below in which the writer talked about how anger to make one feel empowered depending on the situation. I think if one could channel the anger like how Bruce Banner and become something greater to produce a positive outcome, then yes, anger is the way to go.
A couple of months before I was laid off from the library, I was transferred to a branch which was my wife’s former supervisor. Since I already knew the problems my wife had to deal with, I prepared myself for an un-fun and soul sucking experience. However, there was one incident, my supervisor got on my ass for having a longer bedtime storytime program than planned for. For me, if a library program, especially a kids program runs longer, I consider this to be success. Many times, kids are ready to leave at the first chance if they don’t like something but if you can get them to stay, be engaged, and don’t want to leave, that is the ultimate success for any librarian. My supervisor thought otherwise and practically chastised me for being over 15 minutes. Later than night, my supervisor had her adult program which not only did it run longer than expected but the branch was closed and those patrons were still in the library. Quite the double standard – do as I say not as I do. I felt that night hating my supervisor with all the piss and vinegar in my blood. Yet, even by the time I got home, my hostility for my supervisor did not wane. I had to something.
I put on The Incredible Hulk dvd, (you know the good one with Ed Norton). I started to notice, like with many movie characters, I found myself living through the actor who portrayed Bruce Banner. For the most part of the film, when Banner did change to the Hulk, I too felt strong and empowered. Towards the climax of the film, the Hulk finally spoke with rage, “Hulk smash!” I felt a release come over me like a tipping point that made me realize what I had to do the next day. “I had to confront Vader again.” I had to talk to my supervisor and tell her how unfair and unbalanced her treatment was to me but I had to say it with out the anger. The “Hulk smash” line was the push I needed to get past the anger. And it worked.
The next morning, I worked out what I was going to say on the drive to work. Luckily, there were no other staff members but my supervisor noticed my dour demeanor. I spoke in measured tones to get my point across. I told her that I when it comes to running a children’s program anything she had to say I would take it as something constructive to improve future programs. However, when it came down to telling that I was in the wrong to letting the program running longer than planned for, I brought up how her program ran longer than planned for. She said point taken. That was it. (ok) From that point on, I did not have any further problems with her on that level. Had I known at the time that I would have been laidoff shortly thereafter, I would have probably done nothing and let it fester. This time, I didn’t let that happen.
Anger gets a bad rap. Sure, when there’s too much of it or when it’s improperly applied it can cause damage, but you could say that for nearly any other emotion. Learn how anger can make you smarter, more competent, and more realistic.
Anger is a Great Substitute for Fear or Despair As nasty as anger is, it’s a picnic when compared with terror, depression, or despair. That sounds like damning with faint praise, but it’s not. No one’s ever going to have a life so smooth and sunlit that nothing bad ever happens to them. Unless we are able to achieve serenity to the point of complete detachment, when bad things happen to us we feel negative emotions. Anger can be the best option